Not all of us love the idea of living with someone new for the first time in our lives — especially in a dorm.

Whether your roommate is a complete stranger or your best friend, you will find yourself having to adapt to their ways of living. What if your roommate takes one of your shirts without asking? What if he or she leaves cans of soda on the floor? Maybe they like to blast music while you’re studying or sleeping. Most students who are in a new roommate situation do not know how to approach these issues. So, here is a step-by-step guide to conflict resolution when feuding with a roommate.

Step 1: Calmly talk to your roommate about certain things that have been bothering you. Don’t blame or accuse them — just bring up things that you wish they would do instead.

Step 2: If talking to your roommate does not work out, develop an agreement that both of you will follow. It can vary from cleaning schedules to visitors, to agreeing not to talk at all. Your roommate doesn’t have to be your best friend.

Step 3: If step 2 was not effective, ask your hall’s resident assistant to help you and your roommate come to an agreement. They will host a meeting for both of you to express your concerns in a controlled environment.

Step 4: If none of the previous steps have helped your roommate situation and you are still unhappy, contact Residential and Hospitality Services and request a room change. Who knows — your next roommate could end up being a lifelong friend.