A couple of weeks ago, I received a text message from someone I hadn’t spoken to her in months. The sender of the text was a former coworker and friend — “former” being the operative word.

Through a series of events — me leaving the job, her getting a new boyfriend — we stopped talking. Falling outs happen in friendships, and while they suck I’ve realized they are part of life.

After we stopped talking, there were some unkind words exchanged. Girls can be dramatic, of course, and when an argument starts between two girls it isn’t uncommon for others to join the fray.

I’ll spare all the details but suddenly, the girl I bonded over “Glee” with became the girl I never wanted to speak to or even see again — you know a friendship is over when you unfollow each other on Twitter and Instagram.

Months had gone by since last hearing from her and I was beginning to put her out of my mind.

Then, a friend invited both of us to her birthday dinner. Of course, we sat on opposite ends of the table and never uttered a word to each other.

A few weeks after the dinner was when I got the text. She said something about how she thought we should clear the air, move on from our differences and be adults.

Receiving a text like that is a little weird at first. I wondered, do I even reply? I have no reason to speak to this girl, and why bother bringing up the past? Why not just ignore her?

But I came to realize that she was right. We had shared good times and jokes both outside and inside the job we shared.

And of course, we have mutual friends. Even though pretending someone doesn’t exist can seem easy, it becomes difficult when that person is sitting across the table from you at a restaurant, as we learned.

Both of us probably upset the girl whose birthday we were supposed to be celebrating because we made it awkward by acting like selfish children who couldn’t even pretend to be nice to each other.

We were holding a grudge against each other but unfortunately other people had to endure it.

I thought about it and came to agree with setting aside differences. I didn’t want anymore awkward run-ins, and there’s no point to spending all this energy disliking someone so much when there really was no reason to dislike her in the first place.

Holding grudges takes up too much time and energy, and to no end. Prior to the reconcile, mutual friends would talk about the girl and I would stay silent.

I had no solid excuse to be mad at her, but whenever people would mention her, I had nothing nice to say.

It’s kind of like that part in Mean Girls, when Cady Heron visits Regina George with flowers after she’s hit by a bus. Cady says she’s “sucking the poison out” — like with a venomous snake bite.

By the end of the movie, Cady and Regina are able to coexist without drama. And I’m hoping the same thing for me and my friend.

I wasn’t expecting to go back to being close friends.

I honestly haven’t heard from her since that first text she sent in May. But I would much rather be in the state we are now than hold a grudge any longer.

Letting go of a grudge can be a difficult thing to do.

Especially when the offender may have done something hard to forgive. But moving on means another step towards a less dramatic life. It shows how mature a person can be.

She is transferring schools in the fall, so I assume part of her reasoning for wanting to clear the air came from wanting closure.

However, it’s nice to know the next time I see this girl, which will likely happen soon because of the mutual friends we share, the encounter won’t be as awkward.

Who knows — maybe we’ll end up reconnect over our excitement for the upcoming final season of “Glee.”

Meagan Beck is a State News reporter. Reach her at mbeck@statenews.com.