COMMENTARY
"Pass the turkey, please," my voice carried anything other than holiday bliss as I watched my older brother smear gravy on his face for the pure pleasure of watching me bite my tongue.
I sat there, staring straight ahead and fighting the little voice urging me to revert back to my 12-year-old conflict resolution plan: the karate chop.
I took a breath while assuring myself it had never really resulted in much more than my body in some variation of the human pretzel and giving my brother the satisfaction that he had pushed the right button.
Leave it to the holidays to thrust us back into the family setting where we all learned how to deal with conflict and forgiveness in the first place.
Here I am, age 21, and still hashing it out with my 24-year-old brother, confirming that conflict isn't something one can outgrow; rather, it's a human problem.
Most of us can dig up some family grudge, but often we don't stop to think about implications of these daily conflicts, especially when we drag them out for weeks, months and even years.
A study by the University of Michigan showed that in those 45 and older, forgiveness was linked to better mental and physical health.