Want to host a sex toy party in your own home? Just grab your best buds and find a night when everyone's free.
Pure Romance Inc.
The goods: Lotions, massage oils, bath products, beauty products, lubricants, books and more
The guest list: Parties are intended for women only.
Bonus: Hostesses receives 10 percent of the total party sales and can use that toward purchasing products, and earning free incentive gifts.
On the Web: pureromance.com
Passion Parties Inc.
The goods: Lingerie, games, books, lubricants, lotions, massage oils, body sprays, perfumes and more
The guest list: Parties are intended for women only.
Bonus: Hostesses can earn free products.
On the Web: passionparties.com
Edible Ecstasy
The goods: Lingerie, novelties, lotions, lubricants, sensual kits, adult videos and more
The guest list: Parties can be single-sex or coed.
Bonus: Hosts and hostesses receive 10 percent of party sales to use toward products and can earn free incentive gifts as well.
On the Web: edibleecstasy.com
Midnight Madness
The goods: Bath products, lingerie, books, games, lubricants, massage products, videos and more
The guest list: Parties can be women-only, men-only or coed
Bonus: Hosts and hostesses can earn credit towards purchases determined by total party sales.
On the Web: midnitemadness.com
Source: The State News
Facts on sex toys
• On July 28, 2004, Alabama upheld a 1998 law banning the sale of sex toys in the state, ruling the Constitution does not include a right to sexual privacy. Guns, however, can still be sold.
• In February of 2004, Joanne Webb, a former schoolteacher turned Baptist mother of three, was arrested for panhandling sex toys in her Texas home during a party. Texas law allows for the sale of sex toys as long as they are claimed as novelties, but when they are sold in a direct manner for sex, then trouble ensues.
• Also in Texas, make sure those "novelty" vibrators and dildos don't add up - if a member of a household owns more than five fun toys, off to jail they go.
• And in Massachusetts the sexual groundwork is plain and simple - sell a dildo, or an item of "self abuse" as they like to call them, do five years in jail. Ouch.
Source: The State News
Toys of all shapes and sizes
Heart Massager - $12
"Experience the sensual and therapeutic benefits of this heart-shaped heat pack. Warm your partner's body and mind for an unforgettable hot massage. Reusable."
Basic Instinct - $26
"Basic Instinct is a sexually attracting fragrance with pheromones that will awaken all your senses."
Between The Sheets - $9
"Spray it on your sheets for the elegant feel of satin. Can be used as a body spray or spray it for that romantic scent."
Dust Me Pink - $10
"Dust your partner with this flavored and scented powder that comes with its own feather applicator."
Shimmertime - $8.50
"A great way to accent the beauty of your skin and enhance any occasion. Four colors per jar."
Source: pureromance.com
Popular parties promote female sexuality, friendship
The front door to Allison Oswald's apartment was fully closed, but the hallway outside echoed with her guests' clapping and peals of laughter on Thursday night.
Inside, about 10 of Oswald's close friends and coworkers sat in her living room in a semicircle, munching on home-baked finger foods such as brownies and chip dip. Some guests eased back into the couch while others got comfy on the carpeted floor. Once fully settled in, all eyes were glued to the center of the room - but they weren't gathered to watch television or a movie.
They were at a sex toy party.
For about an hour, the women laughed, joked and talked freely about all things sex while Michelle Brittain, a consultant for the in-home sex toy party company Pure Romance Inc., stood in the middle of the group and introduced dozens of products. One by one, the items were held up and described - sometimes to oohs and ahhs, sometimes to gasps or giggles - before being passed around the semicircle to each guest.
Oswald, a school psychology graduate student, said there was no particular reason why she threw the party, although she did receive a few gag goodies to pass out at her upcoming bachelorette party. She said she just wanted to get her friends together for the event before spring semester gets hectic.
"It's fun to have girls getting together to have an opportunity to talk about things just amongst girls," she said.
Like Oswald, an increasing number of adults are turning to in-home sex toy parties as a way to hold interesting and fun gatherings among friends while exploring options for sexual health and intimacy.
The companies that provide the products often sport racy names such as Passion Parties Inc. and For Your Pleasure Inc., and depending on who's hosting, the demonstrations can be women only, men only or coed.
Brittain, who led the product demonstrations at Oswald's gathering, has been a Pure Romance consultant for more than a year. The 32-year-old Lansing resident, who is a parole officer by day and jokes about the contrast between her two jobs, decided to pursue becoming a consultant for in-home parties after attending one herself.
"I went to a party in January (2004) and just had such a great time," she said. "I thought the products were really unique. I had been to other in-home party plans, but I just thought this was such a fun and exciting and nice setting for women to be able to look at and purchase all these romance items."
Pure Romance Inc. is currently the nation's fastest-growing in-home sex toy party plan: For the 2003 fiscal year, the company reported $30 million in sales. Men can purchase products from the company's Web site or directly from a consultant, but the actual Pure Romance parties operate under a strict ladies-only policy.
The bottom line? This isn't your grandmother's Tupperware party.
During her first year as a Pure Romance consultant, Brittain only hosted about one party each week. But now, because of more advertising exposure, she's recently increased the number of parties she does to three per week.
Although most women who host parties fall between the ages of 25 and 45, Brittain said she's had demand from women younger and older than the average and the popularity just keeps building.
"Right now, this is a big buzz," she said. "A lot of it is just word of mouth: Women finally talking to each other about this subject."
Products range from mundane bath bubbles and body glitter to riskier massage oils and edible lotions to - of course - more scandalous novelties. Products range from $10-150.
And, according to Brittain, some guests aren't afraid to make more than a few purchases - her best party sold more than $1,300 worth of products.
As a consultant, Brittain makes a percentage of the profits from each party. She said holding parties has become a good way to supplement her income.
"It's set in such a tasteful and comfortable setting. It's easy. You're just talking to women," she said.
But not everyone is completely comfortable with the idea of sex toy parties. Female sexuality, and sexuality in general, can still be sensitive and often taboo subjects.
Dennis Martell, coordinator for health education programs at Olin Health Center said sex toy parties aren't for everyone, but they can be a good chance for people to learn more about their sexuality.
"There just seems to be a lack of permission that seems to be programmed into some women, that they don't have the right to explore their sexuality," he said.
Martell said some women are more shy about their sexuality than men and pointed to societal pressures, religion and culture as a few factors that can affect people's feelings about their own bodies.
"How often do people get to sit around, especially women, to talk about what is it that they need and what they want from sex?" he said, adding that sex toy parties can be a healthy way for women to become more comfortable with themselves.
"You hear 'sex toy' and you think 'oh my God, it's just going to be this place where they just demonstrate sex toys,' when really, it's talking about your body and your right to say 'no,' and if you do want to increase your pleasure or your satisfaction, here are some things you can try."
Published on Wednesday, August 24, 2005